http://soulation.org/jonalynblog/2012/08/harry-and-sally-are-wrong-friendship-men-and-women.html
I like this post more so than the last one about opposite-sex friendships, but I think the last one certainly has its place. This one seems more practical, though (and she quotes from Sirach!! =D so how can I not repost that?).
Also, reading about her egalitarian views is pretty cool. Good food for thought.
i do agree that our christian community has an unhealthy perception of guy-girl relationships and corner them into romantic relationships. and honestly, that happens a lot especially with our age group because most people are single and looking so it's not hard to see why this happens. subsequently, we remind ourselves and others to be careful about this if you're not ready for a relationship. that's my reasoning.
ReplyDeletesecondly, something my small group leader said stuck with me in regards to opposite sex friendships when you're married. he said that he would rather seem cold/distant to other women who aren't his wife rather than run the risk of damaging his marriage in pursuing an opposite sex friendship. i've been thinking about what he said and I'd say I have to agree, esp given what I know about my own heart and lust for intimate relationships. if you know you're prone to straying in your heart by emotionally lusting after another relationship then is it really worth it to try and pursue an opposite sex friendship? i know it's an extreme case, ha. anyway, i don't plan on severing or feeling awkward about friendships i have with guys after i marry (esp since i do consider these guys, including you!, to be brothers) but i will plan on deepening my relationship with my future husband - perhaps that's a better POV - relative to marriage, these friendships just aren't on the same level of commitment or intimacy.